We’ve all felt it & I think the strangest part of loneliness is that no matter where you are in the world, you can experience it.
I’ve been in rooms full of people and felt more alone than I had felt when I was by myself. Ironic isn’t it?
Or another good example is posting something on social media that gets a lot of attention. In the moment you feel excited and happy, but later on you somehow feel even lonelier and isolated. Why?
I wanted to share my recent experience with loneliness and I hope it gives you a feeling of peace if you are experiencing it right now.
So the other day, this feeling of loneliness took over me- a feeling that, luckily, I hadn’t felt in a while. I began to overthink every aspect of my life. I started to question my decisions and blaming myself for situations that were out of my control.
“Why did this relationship end? Why did I treat so and so that way? Why did I do this instead of that? This is why I am lonely. “
To drown out the thoughts, I put on a feel good movie and finally was able to go to bed.
The next day, I kept replaying the thoughts that I had been feeding myself the night before.
Later on in that day, I was chatting with a friend. With this experience consuming my mind during conversation, I finally built up the courage to ask-
“do you ever feel lonely?”
“Yes. A lot.”
Obviously, the conversation went on further, but strangely after she said this, I felt relieved.
I am not happy my friend feels this pain- not one bit, but there is some comfort in knowing loneliness is part of the human experience and it is normal. It makes me realize- I am not alone in this.
And if you are reading this right now this is a reminder to you,
you are not alone either.
You will get through it.